Keeping the spark alive in a marriage takes creativity, playfulness, and a willingness to try new things. While routine can be comforting, it’s also important to shake things up to keep the passion burning bright.
If you’re looking for fun and exciting ways to initiate sex with your spouse, here are 15 great ideas to inspire you.. that actually work!
Send A Flirty Text
Sometimes a simple text can set the mood for later. Throughout the day, send your spouse a flirty or suggestive message. It doesn’t have to be explicit—just something to let them know you’re thinking about them in a more intimate way.
By the time you’re together, the anticipation will be through the roof. Ok, I have done this several times and this is one of my favorites 🙂 I like to send flirty texts or funny ones to Amy to initiate. She must like them because they work 🙂 Here is an example of a text message sounding like a reminder for a Dr’s appointment.
Surprise Them With A Kiss
One of the simplest and most effective ways to initiate intimacy is with a deep, passionate kiss. We don’t kiss our spouses enough, and this alone with surprise them. Or surprise your spouse with an unexpected kiss when they least expect it—whether they’re cooking, working, or just relaxing. A spontaneous kiss can quickly turn into something more. Timing is everything. Don’t do it when it is not appropriate of course.
Play A Game
Oh yes, we like this one. Turn initiation into a game by suggesting a fun activity that could lead to something more intimate. Whether it’s a round of strip poker, the Ultimate Intimacy bedroom games on the app, a steamy board game, or even a playful bet where the loser gives the winner a massage, adding a game element can make things more exciting and playful.
We also offer tons of games in card deck form such as the non graphic sex positions, intimacy truth or dare, the bedroom game and many more!
Write A Love Note
Leave a love note in a place where your spouse will find it—a bathroom mirror, their car, or even in their lunchbox. The note can be sweet, suggestive, or downright naughty, depending on your mood. This thoughtful gesture will not only make them smile but also set the stage for later.
Wear Something Special
Dressing up (or down) can be a fun and sexy way to initiate sex. Surprise your spouse by wearing something they love—whether it’s their favorite outfit, lingerie, or even just their favorite T-shirt of yours. When they see you, they’ll know exactly what you’re thinking.
Take A Shower Together
Suggest taking a shower or bath together. The combination of warm water, close proximity, and soapy skin is bound to lead to something more. Plus, it’s a great way to relax and connect before getting intimate.
Plan A Surprise Date Night
Sometimes initiating sex can start well before the bedroom. Plan a surprise date night with your spouse—whether it’s a fancy dinner, a cozy night in with their favorite movie, or a spontaneous adventure. By the time you’re alone together, the romantic atmosphere will make it easy to transition into something more intimate.
Give A Sensual Massage
Offer to give your spouse a massage after a long day. Start with their shoulders or feet, and slowly work your way to more intimate areas. The combination of touch and relaxation can easily lead to a more passionate encounter.
Here is some amazing All-in-one Intimate massage cream that is amazing!
Cook A Romantic Dinner
Cook a special dinner for your spouse, complete with candlelight, their favorite meal, and maybe even some aphrodisiac foods like chocolate or strawberries. A romantic dinner can set the tone for a lovely evening together, with dessert being something a bit more intimate.
Dance Together
Turn on some music and invite your spouse to dance with you. Whether it’s a slow dance in the living room or something more upbeat, dancing together can be a fun and intimate way to get close and connect, leading naturally to something more.
Start With A Compliment
Sometimes, a well-timed compliment can be the perfect way to initiate intimacy. Tell your spouse how attractive they look, how much you love them, or how they make you feel. Compliments can build confidence and lead to a more passionate connection.
Just Be Direct
Sometimes the best way to initiate sex is simply to be direct. Tell your spouse exactly what you’re in the mood for and how much you want them. Being straightforward about your desires can be incredibly sexy and leave little room for misunderstanding.
I remember when I wanted to initiate with Amy one time and I was giving all the hints and she looked at me and said “just tell me that you want to have sex with me!” So I did, and things went very well 🙂
Final Thoughts
Initiating sex doesn’t have to be awkward or routine—it can be fun, playful, and full of excitement. By trying out some of these ideas, you can keep things fresh and fun in your marriage, ensuring that both you and your spouse feel desired and connected.
Remember, the key is to be creative, communicate your desires, and enjoy the process of connecting with the one you love.
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