Relationship Advice: 5 Things That Turn Men Off You
Women’s behavior is difficult for men to understand. It’s true. But there are things that they understand too well and that they don’t like. These 5 typical female mistakes often become not just a reason for dissatisfaction but also a very serious excuse for breaking up.
1. You constantly insist that you are “strong and independent.”
Self-sufficiency is wonderful! And here you go through life, flaunting this proud title. Perhaps you have paid a high price for independence, but here’s the thing: men do not like such ostentatiously independent women. It is important for men to feel significant. Any man is pleased to hear a woman ask for help. Yes, you may be able to open a tin can with a knife, hang a shelf, or even do repairs, but, to paraphrase a famous joke, “What’s the point if your man cries?” Or rather, it feels like a useless appendage to you—strong and independent.
2. You are always focused on work.
Even on a date or at dinner, you talk about her, darling. Of course, loving your job so much is commendable. It’s great to have passion in your life. But your man may not be so interested in it. Leave your enthusiasm at your desk. That’s where you need to defend and prove your competence. After all, you want all the romance in your relationship to be killed by work? Talk about books, movies, food, and how to spend your free time. And taboo work or give out information in measured doses.
3. You are a Mommy, not a Woman
You have children, and the whole focus of your life is on them. You take care of them, raise them, and try to help them realize their full potential. And with your husband, you also talk about “Dashenka and Pashenka” most of the time, and sometimes you even behave with him like a mother, not a wife.
Don’t forget about your husband. He, not your children, should be your main focus. At the very least, split your attention between them 50/50 or 60/40 (where 60 is your husband and 40 are your children).
4. You go into excessive detail about your unhappy love.
You think that this will bring you closer together, and in the early stages of the relationship, you tell him in all colors what a scoundrel your ex is and what a victim you are. And you yourself are not averse to curiously asking why he broke up with his ex. Unfortunately, psychologists unanimously declare: There is nothing more inappropriate for the birth of love.
Firstly, it is so easy to blurt out too much in the heat of the moment, and secondly, he may seriously think, “What if she starts spreading rumors about me too?” No woman has ever regretted saying less, not more.
5. You constantly complain
A man wants to see next to him not a source of problems but a quiet haven, so to speak. A woman who is always complaining about life and is just overflowing with negativity seems no more attractive to him than a professional mourner. No man can stand it when their date is held under the motto “Life is pain!”
Sooner or later he will run away from you, even if he has been patient for a long time. It is important to remember that a man, having heard about a problem, will certainly try to solve it. And when you send so many messages about troubles at once, he will reasonably think about whether he needs such a lady.
If you have found at least one of these points in yourself, think about it. Working on yourself is always beneficial, so by getting rid of false attitudes and beliefs, you will make a huge contribution to your future and to your relationship with your loved one.
