Relationship Advice: 6 Conversations Married Men Are Terribly Afraid Of
This question worries many women. But whose problem is it really? Not only men. A woman should also be able to express her thoughts correctly. Here are 6 conversations that men often complain about:
1. “Yes, but…”
Agreeing with your husband only to say “but” is crazy. It makes him feel even more like you’re belittling his opinion.
Tip: Say “yes, and.” This encourages discussion and expression of thoughts rather than argument.
2. “We need to talk.”
Men are afraid of conversations that start with this phrase because they are shy. Usually these are topics about feelings, and the man is uncomfortable. It is a stressful situation for him, all his muscles tense up, he is nervous, and it seems that he is not listening.
Tip: Use the pronoun “we” instead of “you.” Make this conversation a discussion, not an accusation. And it’s better to leave such conversations for the morning, not the evening – when your head is fresh and your body is rested.
3. “Why can’t you do what your neighbor did for his wife?”
Comparisons make a man feel less important and worthless. You wouldn’t want him to compare you to a supermodel or even the neighbor’s wife, either.
Advice: Instead, focus on how special he is to you. Praise works like magic, and he will want to live up to it and become better.
4. “I hate it when you…”
You can criticize your partner, but you need to do it right. Don’t use harsh words like “I hate”, “always”, “never”. Don’t focus on what he does wrong.
Tip: Notice what he does well. Say what you like when he does it, thank him.
5. “Remember how you screwed up 5 years ago?”
Leave the past in the past. If you constantly remind him of the mistakes you once promised to forget, it clips his wings.
Advice: Discuss only what is happening now. Let go of the past, forgive it and move on.
6. “You shouldn’t have”
It hurts to hear. He tried, he wanted to pamper you, to please you, at least sometimes, and we do not appreciate it – not only his gift, but his efforts and attention.
Advice: just say “thank you”, appreciate his gesture. If you are worried about the cost of the gift, then discuss how much you can spend from the family budget on such things, but do it later, another time.
Why do men often complain that their wives nag them? Because most often women only notice the bad, but do not know how to appreciate the good. Fix it;)
