Every woman wants to be with an alpha male.
Because alpha males are attractive, strong, capable, charismatic, purposeful, and most of the fun people to be with.
But, let’s face it, there aren’t enough alpha males out there for all women.
There are enough uninteresting guys who don’t know what they want or what they’re doing, but not enough top-tier men who can make life much happier, exciting, and fruitful for potential female partners.
So if you’re interested in figuring out what type of woman is an alpha male attracted to, here are the traits for you to look at, and then figure out what works for you if you want to get the type of man you desire.
1. She Embraces Her Feminine Self
Alpha men are masculine men.
They are competitive go-getters who pursue what they want and keep doing so until they get it. Their masculine energy is what drives them to become relentless in their pursuits and desire to be the best at what they do.
This means that they’ll obviously lack feminine energy simply because of what they are, as masculine men.
And that’s when you, the feminine woman, come in.
Because all healthy relationships have balance.
Men bring their masculine energy into the relationship for growth, order, and security and women bring their feminine energy for nurture, relationship stability, and warmth.
Unfortunately, not all women quite get that.
A lot of women today are too fixated on becoming as masculine as possible, thinking this is what makes them successful and attractive. They think by matching a man’s energy that they will get what they want.
But this only works with men who aren’t masculine or alpha; usually, this is what men who don’t know what they want can settle for.
Opposites attract.
If you’re looking for a top-tier man, you have to embrace who you truly are as a feminine woman.
The type of woman an alpha man is attracted to is a woman who doesn’t compete but completes.
This is the woman who doesn’t compete with her man with her masculine energy but completes the relationship by being comfortable and confident in her own feminine self to provide qualities he can never have.
2. She Is Trustworthy
When it comes to having a long-term relationship with an alpha, having trust as a foundation for your relationship is crucial.
Masculine men who have something to achieve and work for will always look forward to coming back home to rest, relax, and be their less professional selves at home.
If you’re not someone who he can fully trust, he’ll either have to continue being on-guard, which will never last long for either of you, or have to find another option that he can trust enough to build a life with.
This might seem obvious, but too many women unintentionally mess up that foundation for many different reasons.
Some women might feel like their man has worked for too long that they got neglected, and therefore, behave in ways that instill more doubt in their relationship.
No man, let alone an alpha, wants to deal with this, especially after doing his best to provide for himself and you.
What he’d want is to come home to you.
And he needs to trust you enough for you to be his home.
3. She Is Consistent
The key to developing trust is consistency.
The more consistent you are in being the type of woman an alpha male wants, the more he simply wants you.
Men appreciate consistency, especially those who know what they want because they are also consistent.
They know that the more consistent you are to them, the more valuable you become as well.
If you become too valuable, he’s not going to want to have anything to do with anyone else as you made yourself too reliable.
Because you know what he wants and keep giving him exactly what he needs.
Smart women who want to keep high-value men long-term will figure out what their men desire and then never stop giving it to them.
Once an alpha man sees his woman keeps delivering and making his life easier for both of them, he naturally keeps finding more reasons to make her happy in return.
4. She Is a Good Reflection of Him
Alpha men appreciate women who care about their image.
Nobody wants to work on themselves for too long only to have that taken away by someone who won’t look after what has been built.
Status and image are important for alpha men who are successful in what they do — they understand that a positive image gives them more opportunities and potential for more wealth.
And a negative image will ruin what he has built and any chance to find more success later on.
A woman who fully understands that represents herself and her man in the best way possible because she knows his success is her success.
So always make sure you’re presenting yourself in the best way possible, so when that alpha man sees you one day and only hears good things about you, he’ll admire your reputation and want that to extend to his.
5. She Is a Private Person
A private and classy woman is definitely someone an alpha man will be attracted to.
Because every once in a while you’ll have some differences with your man, no matter how great he or you are.
However, how you handle those differences makes a huge difference.
Do you wait for an appropriate time to discuss any misunderstandings or issues with your man?
Do you discuss things calmly and privately?
Or do you have a full-on shouting match in the middle of a mall or a restaurant because you can’t just wait?
Alpha men who, again know what they want, also understand that having the right woman with the right attitude is one of the most important aspects of their lives.
No matter how well they’re doing in life, these men believe that a woman who doesn’t know how to handle tension and differences will take away from their peace of mind.
Which is pointless.
So if you’re the type of woman who eases tensions and keeps them private, you also make it easier for your man to communicate clearly and openly to you — he’ll know you’re mature and sensible enough to talk to, which gives your relationship more stability.
6. She Is Supportive
No matter how strong and independent an alpha man is, he’ll want to know he has someone by his side, no matter what happens.
And even though it might seem obvious, it’s not common to find for men.
A lot of women out there have a skewed perspective of what a relationship should be. They’re more concerned about what a relationship can offer them instead of thinking about what they bring to the table.
Instead of offering support and reminding her man of how great he is doing for himself and for her, the average girl will just sit and wait for the fruits of labor without doing much in return.
Then wonder why her man isn’t really sharing or connecting as much as he used to.
Most men out there, especially the very competent ones, will not ask you for your support or your attention, even when they’d really like it.
And you don’t want to be the average girl who just gets the average guys.
You want to be proactive, so you focus on giving him positive feedback on his endeavors and what he does for you because if you keep reminding him of why you’re enjoying your relationship and life with him consistently, he’ll find more reasons to make you happy.
He’ll understand how it feels to be supported by his favorite person, and will only want to do the same for you, in his own way.
7. She Is Adventurous
Adventurous women are greatly appreciated by all men.
As we’ve mentioned earlier, alpha men bring order and structure into their households. Part of the structure is routine and work, so when it’s time for them to play, they play hard.
And when it’s time to play and have fun, it’s great to have a woman who can also do the same.
The type of woman an alpha male is attracted to is the adventurous woman who looks to have fun outside the routine by always looking for new activities and unfamiliar territories to explore with her man.
She does so because this is what she likes to do and so they can also both share memorable experiences in their lives — memories that bring them closer to one another as time goes by.
This is the kind of fun woman who also plans for getaways every once in a while and gives her man suggestions on what to do for weekends when you’re both not busy.
She is that person who never lets her playful childish side fade no matter how old she gets — this kind of energy is always refreshing and exciting for anyone to be around.
8. She Is Respectful
They say the most important thing in a relationship is love, but I disagree.
I think the key element in strong relationships is respect.
If you have respect, you have an unshakeable foundation for your connection. If you don’t have it, that relationship will easily crumble.
When it comes to being in a relationship with an alpha male, respect will be the number one thing he looks for. It’s what shows him that you take him seriously and that you are ready to be taken also seriously.
If you’re a respectful woman, you will be treasured by the man you’re with and won’t be taken for granted because that man will know he can rely on being with you without getting worried about any sort of disrespect getting out of hand.
Not only is respect part of a connection’s foundation, but respect is what also comes with attraction.
If you have respect, there can be attraction and if there’s no respect, there will never be attraction. No matter how much love there is between you.
Be respectful towards his opinions, attempts to grow, hobbies, and goals. You can disagree with him, but even that has to be done respectfully.
When your man truly believes that you would never want to mistreat him, he’ll only want to dedicate more of his time and efforts towards you, because you’re being more special for him.
Respect either goes both ways or doesn’t go at all.
9. She Is Passionate
Passion is a lifeforce, and when you have it, you tend to have a more fulfilling and enjoyable life.
Passion can come in many forms; it can be a career, a small hobby, major habits, or just activities you do every once in a while.
You could always tell the difference between someone who is passionate about what they do and someone who is just trying to get by.
People with passion always glow — they give off a contagious vibe that we all want to be around, and that also applies in relationships.
You should always make sure you find passion in what you do.
When you’re being intimate with him when you’re preparing your favorite dish when you’re at your painting class, etc…
Whatever it is you do, when it’s done with passion, it always reflects in your relationship.
Alpha men usually have passions they’re always developing and working on, and for you to also have and share your passions with him is an experience that elevates your connection and makes it more meaningful.
Don’t be one of those girls who just like to go out with their friends, look at their phones, and shop all the time.
Always have a skill or hobby to work on that keeps you grounded and gives you that irreplaceable glow.
10. She Is a Great Listener
Everyone appreciates a great listener who can provide attention and presence when necessary.
Even though you might be dealing with a very capable alpha male, being a great listener is always going to encourage him to talk to you more about his passions and solutions to certain problems.
By being a great listener, you cement your position as the type of woman he has to keep close.
Even if you don’t understand the details that he could be sharing, by simply understanding what’s important for him, you become a great listener.
But it takes a lot of maturity, patience, and selflessness to listen and not just hear.
To understand what he is going through and not just politely hear what he’s saying just so you can say what you have in mind.
When you’re being a great listener yourself, you also encourage him to do the same and listen to you whenever you’re going through a difficult or unclear situation that needs guidance.
11. She Is Loyal
Loyalty is surely one of the most valuable traits for an alpha male to have in a woman, and you better have the right mindset for it because it’s always easier said than done.
Most people believe that loyalty is simply not being emotionally and physically available to others outside their relationship and marriage, but it goes deeper than that.
You can have a woman who will avoid infidelity at all costs and another who makes her man’s goal and happiness a priority that she will not let anything get in the way of her doing so.
There’s the basic “I’m your girl” loyalty and the “if something ever happens, I’ll still choose you loyalty”.
One is surface-level and the other is perfect for long-term resilience.
The expression “ride or die girl” gets thrown around a lot, but that loyal type of woman is extremely rare to find, and that’s why she’s valuable.
Now, that doesn’t mean you should be loyal to the point where he expects you to follow through with anything, but he should be giving you reasons to believe that being loyal to him helps you too.
12. She Is a Great Communicator
The better you are as a communicator, the fewer misunderstandings and conflicts you have to deal with and the more happiness and peace you experience in your relationship.
Great alpha males tend to be also good communicators because it’s one of the reasons why they become leading figures for those around them.
Everyone believes communication is important but very few really have the patience and maturity for it.
To be a great communicator you need to be addressing ideas instead of people — you need to be able to separate what people do and say from the people themselves, and then communicate your differences without attacking whoever you’re dealing with.
You must be able to put your ego aside at times when he communicates constructive criticism to you too, which you will have with an alpha male as he’ll want what’s best for you.
If you take an argument personally and forget the fact that he chose to be with you and likes you as a person, then you will not only make that argument difficult, but you will also make handling future tensions also more difficult for you both since you’re not showing an ability to separate arguments from the person you’re dealing with.
Bad communication always creates walls and distances between people.
13. She Is Nurturing
A great man takes care of his woman and finds time for her and a great woman has to do the same in her own way.
The type of woman an alpha man is attracted to is the nurturing woman who has the ability to take care of a connection or look after her family.
That’s the woman who holds it down for the man while he goes out and gets things done.
When she brings warmth, care, and affection because this is what she enjoys doing, alpha men see her as a gift.
Women who understand the value in taking care of a man’s home, cooking, and providing him with the skills he wouldn’t necessarily have the capacity for are always pursued by alphas.
These alpha men understand what their strong points are and value having someone who can cover for their weaker points.
They appreciate relationships where both sides complete one another instead of doing the exact same things.
If you find value in taking care of him and having a nurturing influence in his life, you eventually become his home.
14. She Is Healthy
Mentally, physically, hygiene-wise, you name it.
A healthy woman is a woman that can be taken seriously and counted on. When she’s healthy in all aspects, it also shows discipline and having interests in the right places that actually matter.
Men notice that.
The men who do well in life understand what it takes to keep a positive and healthy habit or mindset going, so they respect and appreciate a woman who does it in her own way.
And, honestly, too many women today don’t bother to work out, stay in a healthy mental place, and even keep their own surroundings neat and tidy.
They choose to live in chaos on a regular basis, and that can hold them back from developing great relationships, unfortunately.
Because the alpha men’s success requires healthy routines and surroundings to keep the positivity going, it’s only in their best interest to find a woman who focuses on the same thing for her so they can both have a harmonious long-term life with one another.
15. She Is Stable
Stability comes first before growth takes place.
If you want something serious with an alpha man, and assuming he’s also looking for something long-term, you need to know that stability is crucial for you both to have.
Stability comes in the form of habits, goals, and mindsets.
You have to be comfortable with where you are before you pursue a commitment with anyone. You can of course be changing and improving in any field in life, but you need to have an idea where you want to be or stay later on to join someone on a journey.
It’s not going to help if you’re always on the move or having drastic schedule changes because of your career or lifestyle choices.
It’s also not helpful if you live an extremely fast-paced life unless you’re with someone who does the same thing.
You have to be grounded mentally, know what you want to a degree, and act towards that so it’s easier for you to find someone who sees what you want and offers the same.
Make sure your lifestyle is in line with what you’re looking for so you avoid time-wasters and disappointments.
16. She Is Pleasant
No alpha male is going to want to invest in a woman who always has a negative attitude.
We all see these women out there with questionable attitudes, tone, and behaviors these days, and they never end up with great alpha males for a reason. They only find other beta guys who will be okay with consistent bad behavior.
So if you would like to stand out and be the type of woman alpha males are attracted to, then having a pleasant attitude makes a huge difference.
Even though it sounds simple, you’d be amazed at how a lot of women find repulsive, loud, and masculine behavior as “badass” or something to be proud of. Only to betas can this be the case.
But to a top successful alpha who can have options? Pursuing bad-mannered women is absolutely pointless for any type of commitment.
The more you embrace your true feminine and pleasant self, the more centered you are and the more attractive you become to a masculine alpha man.
17. She Is Selfless
Selfless women are misunderstood these days.
They’re looked at as weak and as if they can be easily taken advantage of, which is true when you lack judgment and don’t know when to be selfless.
But if you have taken the time to learn who the man you’re dealing with truly is and what he wants, then you can tell if you can be selfless with him or not.
There is freedom in selflessness.
To be with a man who can take care of you and, at the same time, have 100% of you is a once-in-a-lifetime experience most people don’t ever go through.
A selfless woman is the type of woman alpha males are attracted to because they understand how much trust and value the woman must have for them to be ready to give her all.
And when an alpha man sees a woman giving him her all, he’ll be eager to reciprocate.
Having this dynamic creates a bulletproof relationship that continues to give you both fulfillment and survive all kinds of problems that come your way.
But again, you need to take the time to get to know this alpha man before you set yourself free with that kind of selflessness. You need to know you’re in safe and capable hands.
18. She Is Forgiving & Forgetting
Every once in a while, your man is going to make a mistake.
When you’re out there making moves to better your situation, you are of course bound to mess something up.
The alpha will typically shake it off and try again because he sees no other option. Quitting isn’t in his nature.
But their partners will see things differently, every once in a while, simply because they aren’t out there themselves.
So at some point, you will see your man make a mistake that might cost you or him somehow — which is a normal thing an imperfect human will eventually do.
This mistake might hurt you or frustrate you in some sense, which is also perfectly fine because you’re human too.
And if you trust your man to do eventually do the right thing after he slips, he will appreciate that and have another reason to want to be with you.
But if you continue to remind him of his mistake and hold it against him, you ruin the trust that you both have for one another.
If you forgive and forget a mistake that he doesn’t intend on repeating, then you make it extra safe for him to continue to try and create something better for you and him.
Nobody likes to be in a relationship where they have to walk on eggshells or fear failure too much, so make sure you do your best to forgive and forget.
Always look at the relationship and its direction as a whole, never the flaws that come and go every once in a while.
19. She Is Attractive
Attraction is another element that carries your relationship.
Without attraction, there is nothing to stand on. Without the man feeling attracted to you and vice versa, you’re just on burrowed time.
The key for a couple to stay together is to continue wanting to be together, and for this to happen, they must be attracted to one another.
Forget this “he should love me for me” and all of this Pinterest nonsense.
You absolutely need to keep the intimacy alive if you want to stay with a man for more than a couple of years, and he must also do the same to keep you feeling wanted as a woman.
So if you want to keep that alpha male, he has to desire you consistently, which means you have to be attractive to him regularly.
That doesn’t mean you have to stay at home wearing makeup and lingerie all the time, but having an attractive attitude and putting in some effort to be extra attractive for your man, every once in a while, will pay off in the long run.
Alpha males who work hard love coming home to an attractive woman he’s excited about.
Not wanting to get his hands off of you is key to easy long-term investing.
20. She Is Coachable
An alpha man who knows what he wants will also be a great leader.
And great leaders are needed for every household to guide their relationships or families to more success and happiness.
But if you want that competent alpha man, you obviously need to be by his side, not against him.
If you want to have guidance from an excellent man to help you also become a better version of yourself, you have to be coachable and be willing to learn.
Because alpha males who are competent avoid women who only think for themselves, are stubborn, and think they’re always right.
These great men know they have the ability to better themselves and those around them, so it makes no sense for them to stick with women who don’t like to listen to any directions.
It only makes sense to find partners who want to make life easier, not cause more friction.
But for you to be coachable, you need to first find that successful coach. You need to make sure that the man you’re with consistently looks out for your best interest before you follow his lead.
Know What You’re Looking For & Work On It
You can have all of these perfect traits to be the type of woman an alpha man is attracted to, but if you choose to be with the wrong alpha, these traits won’t serve you — you’ll be taken advantage of and get hurt.
You need to be able to first know what type of man you want and then not settle for anything else.
If you’re looking for a relationship, then you have to know you’re dealing with a man who wants that for himself before you show more of this feminine and caring side of you.
Alpha men who make great partners are uncommon and they’re not easy to find, that’s why, if you truly want this kind of man for you, you need to work on all of the feminine traits as soon as you can because, by the time he shows up, you should already be ready.
Because he will be ready.
Timing is everything for successful relationships.
